The easiest part of getting to know someone is in the beginning. It’s all new and exciting, so both of the parties involved are practically all over each other. Constantly asking questions, constantly missing each other, or just talking or texting the night away. The hard part comes after the introductory phase has ended. When you’ve said all the interesting things about your ideas and values, and how the past has shaped you into the man or woman that you are today. This is all fun, but how do you keep the chemistry going after this? How do you make the person you are interested in miss you like they did when you first began talking? That is the question we plan to answer!

 Don’t Act Jealous

Women tend to do this very often to test men’s patience and see which ones are the super confident ones. In all truthfulness, all men and most likely all people are a little jealous and territorial around people that they are quite fond of. Women may know this as well, but they still like the illusion that their man is comfortable enough to know that even if 100 guys hit on his girl, she will still only have eyes for him. This is an illusion that guys don’t have a problem with but you have to convey a confident attitude. This will show her that you are dominant and comfortable in your own skin. Just a reminder, this is also a test, in which 99% of men will fail at some point in their lives. She may not want you to be jealous when she’s telling you stories about other guys, but every once in a blue moon she’s going to want you to be a little jealous and territorial. I know, it’s crazy but can you do? They want to see that if it came down to it, that you could protect her, so if someone is being indecent to her and she hasn’t told you that she hates confrontations, don’t be afraid to confront the guy who’s trying to get your girl. The key is knowing what she likes. Some women like men that are willing to fight for them, so know your girl. Some hate confrontation of any type so that could be a reason to break it off with you. Listen to everything she says, because eventually it all becomes important!

Be Confident

This seems obvious, right? Not! Some guys feel that once they start dating a girl, they can show their insecurities and emotions as well. Wrong! Unless a girl asks for that side of you, show her only a small part of that emotional side, and remember to do it rarely, not all the time! The truth of the matter is, women only claim to want the emotional nice guy that always buys her flowers before every date. These men only appear real in movies on the big screen, remember that, ladies! You have to be confident with who you are! Be willing to playfully argue with her if you disagree on a subject you feel strongly about and can support arguments in a respectful and knowledgeable manner. Most women want a manly man that can occasionally be sweet and emotional only with her. Yes, they often tend to think that only she can make you sweet and gentle. But essentially, most women want the strong guy that will grab her hand and bring her close to him so that he can kiss her without asking for permission.

Give Your Girlfriend Space

Sometimes emotions and hormones can get in the way of a relationship. Sure you may have somehow messed things up but it’s difficult to understand what a woman is thinking when it gets to be that time of the month. The smallest of things could be completely blown out of proportion and it can easily lead to a huge fight where one of you says “we should take a break”. This is a bit extreme, of course, but it’s happened even to the best of us in the strongest relationships. The key to situations like this is apologizing for whatever it is you did wrong, only once. Because women always remember the important things, so don’t overdo it with apologies. Give her the space she needs and the time she wants, and eventually, when she cools down, she will want to talk to you. Do you know why she will want to talk to you? Because you were calm and confident, you didn’t panic by the fact that she may want to break up with you. Now she knows that she needs and wants you because you were patient with her when other guys would push to be with her and want to know what’s wrong. Don’t Always Agree With Your Girl

When your girlfriend gets comfortable enough, she may start picking at little or even big things that you do wrong. Don’t get defensive because she’s only stating her opinion. Listen to her before you get into defensive mode and acknowledge what she’s trying to say. Think about what you want to say before you say it and be as respectful as possible, but never seem angry. Be calm and collective, and tell her why you think that she is wrong. Speak when you argue and try your best not to yell at her as this will only make things worse. Be specific and show her that you know who you are and that you think you are doing it right. Don’t let her think that she can just change you every time she thinks you’re not doing something right.

Don’t Be Afraid of the Words “Break Up”

Depending on how your relationship is going, the words “break up” may or may not come out of her mouth. It may be because she is pressured by the relationship, or she wants to test you. Yes, again, women do enjoy testing their men, but try not to freak out. Show her that she can just as easily forget about you and that you could forget about her too. Just be careful of how you show that and make sure she understands how much you still care about her. Express it not with words, but with actions. If you’ve said too many “sweet” words to talk your way out of something that you’ve done, remember that this gets old, fast. If the word “break” comes up, remind her of all the moments that you’ve shared together. Memories should strengthen your thoughts of why you should be together and not break up. Regardless of whether she agrees or not, be respectful and once again, give her the space she may require. This does not mean that you ignore her and spend your days waiting by the phone or crying to your friends about it. It’s never too late to grow up and show yourself that a woman’s affection does not define you. Nor should any other person’s to be honest, but right now we’re talking about women.