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4 Signs That Your Ex Is Totally Over You (And How to Handle That)



Signs That Your Ex Has Moved On and Is Over You

Some people believe there are two stages to every person’s breakup: when you first break up, and then when your ex gets over you. And while the second portion of the breakup doesn’t receive as much notoriety as the first, it can feel just as devastating (if not more so). 

As a result, people who are freshly broken up with often expend an immense amount of emotional energy trying to figure out if their ex still has feelings for them. While it can be difficult — if not impossible — to know for sure if your ex is over you or not, it’s worth asking whether there are, in fact, key things to look out for. 

In order to better understand the signs that your ex has moved on, we spoke with three dating experts and two people who went through difficult, extended break-ups. Here’s what they had to say.

What It Means to Be ‘Over’ Someone

In order to truly understand when someone moves on, how and what it looks like, first we need to understand what it means to truly be “over” an ex. 

According to dating expert Marisa T. Cohen, Ph.D., it’s less a sign that you’ll never feel another single feeling for this person, and more that they’re simply not holding you back from seeking out other people. 

“Being over someone means that you are no longer emotionally invested in them to the extent that it is causing you to put other relationships (or the pursuit of finding new relationships) on hold,” says Cohen. “You may always be emotionally connected to an ex, especially if you were in a loving, securely attached relationship with them.”

For Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., psychotherapist, and author of “Dr. Romance’s Guide to Finding Love Today,” it’s also about no longer being in a dark, post-breakup place associated with your ex. 

“Being over someone means that you’re no longer in emotional turmoil or pain about the relationship, you’ve done your grieving and you’re open to new things in your life,” she says. 

It doesn’t mean you don’t have any regrets or that you don’t care about the other person at all. Instead, it means that the old relationship and the breakup aren’t taking up a lot of emotional space for you anymore, and instead, you’re moving forward and focusing on other parts of life. 

As Jennifer, one of the people I spoke to about a difficult breakup, told me, an ex you’re still in close contact starting to move on can be bittersweet — but it can also help you move on. 

“I feel like we reached a stage where he sort of wanted more (not really from me, just in life) and I wasn’t quite ready to want more. I had really just settled into our comfortable routine. It didn’t feel dramatic, it didn’t feel fraught, it just sort of was an easing out of a comfort zone. It was sort of sad to say goodbye to that stage, but I wasn’t angry or scared and I think not feeling those two emotions makes it easier for me to be a bit more relaxed about it.”

Signs Your Ex Is Over You

That’s all very well and good when it’s happening to you, but what about when it’s happening to your ex? 

Right after a breakup, it can be heartbreaking to watch someone you used to have a deep, meaningful connection to move on (or seem like they’re moving on) from afar, without any real access to what they’re actually thinking and feeling. Most likely, even if you were to ask them if they still had feelings for you, they wouldn’t necessarily be honest or forthcoming.

All you have to go off of are signs and signals. That’s things you see your ex-post on social media, things you hear about them doing from a mutual acquaintance or clues you can pick up from things that have changed.

However, as Cohen points out, “signals aren’t that clear-cut.”

“When we send messages to another person, we have to consider the sender’s intention, the receiver’s perception, and contextual information,” she says. “Therefore, a person may be attempting to signal that they’re over the partner by publicly displaying that they’ve moved on with others. This may all be a carefully curated facade, and may not actually mean that the person has healed and is moving on from the relationship.”

Basically, anything you see or hear of your ex doing after a breakup could be misinterpreted. 

They’re going on dates? It could be in an attempt to numb the pain of missing you, or it could be that they’re enjoying meeting new people. They’re staying in a lot? They could be crying themselves to sleep, or catching up on some of their favorite books and movies. Did they block you online? Maybe they hate your guts, or they miss you so much that seeing your profile picture would feel devastating. 

It could also just be all of the above. That being said, there are a few signs that are relatively good indicators of an ex having truly gotten over you:

1. Communication Dwindles

Relationships are built on interactions, and if you’re not in touch in one way or another — in person, on the phone, or elsewhere — there’s not really a relationship. Accordingly, when you break up with someone, your conversations typically become shorter and more infrequent.

However, sometimes people keep in touch an ex long after a breakup, and that can be a sign that one or both partners aren’t fully over the relationship yet. 

“After breaking up, it’s normal for one or both partners to cling to the scraps of connection by continuing to text or talk,” says Connell Barrett, the dating coach for The League. “If your ex has halted small-talk messages (‘Hey, you… How’s your day?’) and no longer shares life updates with you, it’s a sign that you’re in their rear-view.”

2. Interactions Become Less Fun

There’s another way for two people’s conversations to dwindle: by losing intensity, as well as frequency. You might be talking about the same amount, but if these start to feel less and less fun, that could be a sign that your ex’s heart is no longer in it. 

“Another sign it’s over for them is that the flirtation is gone from your texting and messaging,” says Barrett. “Any interactions are logical and informational, without the humor, teasing or playful banter that happens when two people are romantically attached to each other.”

That’s something that Marcus, another person I spoke with who went through a difficult breakup, noticed. 

“Three months post-breakup, I realized that although we hung out regularly, she only contacted me when she wanted to hook up or need some kind of practical help with something (transportation of a new bed, for example). I was still contacting her for other kinds of activities (art galleries, dinners, etc.). For a while, it still felt like a diverse relationship, in a way, until I noticed that imbalance.”

Though sex was still part of the picture, the relationship between them was no longer romantic for his ex — a clear sign that things were over in an emotional sense. 

3. Interactions Become Less Awkward

Another sign that your ex has moved on is that your interactions might get better. 

While this is more likely to happen after a lengthy period of silence immediately following the breakup, a positive uptick in tone or frequency of interaction might be misread as your ex wanting to get back together with you. In reality, it means they’ve processed their emotions around the breakup, and are ready to be friendly. 

“If your ex is still in contact, and is no longer pining over you, blaming you or stalking you, they’re probably over you,” says Tessina. “If your ex is ready to be friendly, especially with someone new you are dating, then they’re definitely over you. If your ex was incommunicado, and is now making contact, they’re probably over you.”

Depending on where you’re at emotionally, that could be the start of a wonderful friendship with your ex … or it could be heartbreaking. 

4. They Get Serious With Someone Else

Perhaps no sign is more conclusive of an ex being fully over you than their getting into a serious relationship with someone else. 

While it’s possible to still be pining for your ex when you start dating after a breakup, typically, the further into a serious relationship you go, the more your feelings for your ex (or exes) will fade as the new person in your life takes priority. 

“One sure sign that they’re over you? They’re in a new relationship,” says Barrett. “They’re not just going on dates but are now ‘seeing someone.’ You’ll know this if they start posting ‘couple-y’ photos on their social media.”

However, as Marcus explained, even going on non-serious dates can signal that a big shift has occurred.

“The really obvious moment [I realized she was over me] was about six months post-breakup when we were still occasionally hooking up (but less often than during the first few months), and she casually mentioned going on a date with someone else. [She] started to tell me about it as if that was a completely normal thing to do (which for her, I’m sure it was.)”

Depending on whether you were monogamous or not, and your ex’s relationship to casual dating, that might be totally meaningless. In Marcus’s case, his ex’s comfort talking about this other date signaled that something had seriously shifted. 

How to Deal With Your Ex Being Over You 

If the above signs sound familiar to you, your ex might well be totally over you — and that’s OK.

Maybe that’s the outcome you were hoping for, but if you’re one of the many, many people who don’t want their exes to have moved on just yet, it might feel strange to imagine a world where someone who was once so important to you simply doesn’t hold you in their heart like that anymore. 

But as Tessina says, it’s time to start embracing the future yourself. 

“You must let them go,” she advises. “The relationship you had with this ex is over. If your ex comes back later, you’ll need to begin a brand new relationship on new terms; this old one is over.”

So what does that look like? 

“Be distantly friendly when you encounter each other,” she suggests. “Do not attempt to work out unresolved relationship issues with your ex. Let it be. Don’t bad mouth your ex to friends. It will get back to them, and you’ll look bad. Change your focus to the future.”

Barrett agrees that looking forward is the best approach to realizing your ex has moved on, and that it can even be a net positive in your life. 

“If your ex moves on first, face it — it’s going to sting,” he says. “But you can reframe it as a kind of gift. Don’t isolate yourself socially — reconnect with friends and family because spending time with loved ones keeps your emotions in a good place. Avoid relationship reminders — don’t swipe through your phone looking at photos of you and your ex, and stay away from places that the two of you went to together. And when you’re ready, take new actions to start dating again. The secret to moving on is to move forward.”

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Pakistani man buys land on MOON as wedding gift for wife



A Pakistani man has given his wife a gift most of us wouldn’t think of buying. He gifted her an acre of land on the moon as a wedding gift.

The man identified as Sohaib Ahmed, a resident of Rawalpindi, bought the lunar land in the region called ‘Sea of Vapour’.

The land was bought for $45 from the International Lunar Lands Registry.

The couple were sent the documents of the land on the moon at their home via US Postal Service.

According to the Lunar Settlement Initiative’s website, “under the terms of the LSI, property claims on Luna may be offered to private entities to finance the exploration, settlement, and development of the Moon and its resources.”

It further states that “upon the recognition and certification of land claims, property owners shall be entitled to inhabit and develop their property in any manner, subject to any laws or statutes that may be established by the sovereign and independent government of Luna, which shall be freely elected by its citizens.”

Ahmed said that he was inspired by late Bollywood actor Sushant Singh Rajput to buy his own piece of land on the moon. In 2018. Sushant bought a piece of land in the region of Mare Muscoviense, or the ‘Sea of Muscovy’ through the International Lunar Lands Registry.

His wife, Madiha said that her friends did not believe her when she told them about the shocking wedding gift she got from her husband.

“At first everyone thought it was a joke, but then I showed them the documents and then they believed it,” she told Samaa TV. She added that one of her friends also wants her fiancé to gift her a plot of land on the moon for their wedding.

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How To Recognise And Deal with Trust Issues



Dealing with Trust Issues
A lot of people struggle with ⭐️trust issues⭐️. This severely damages their interactions with other people. The trust issues problem is not one that can be easily dealt with. It is usually caused by several bad experiences in a relationship.
If you ever feel like you can’t trust anyone or you are one of those people who has “I don’t trust anyone” as their life motto, then recognizing the problem and working on it should be your priority. Mistrustful people are usually suspicious of everyone around them and need to deal with this mentality by building their self-esteem and letting go of their negative past experiences. Here is a guide on how to trust others.

What are the trust issues?

Trust issue indicates a special kind of defense mechanism that is unhealthy and do lead to relationship issues. People having trust issues are excessively suspicious and mistrustful. They do expect to be hurt or betrayed in a relationship. People with trust issues have trouble opening up.

Where do trust issues come from?

Trust issues usually come from early life experiences, the memories of which tend to stay with us for most of our whole life. People that have been abused or mistreated in their childhood are more likely to struggle with trust issues. This applies to those who used to be social outcasts and have been bullied before. Additionally, trust issues problems do develop due to experiencing a traumatic event, ranging from accidents and losses to your partner to being cheated on.

What are the signs of trust issues?

If you are experiencing any of these signs, you need to know whether it occurs in your relationships. If it deeply affects your relationships, then you need to work on overcoming the issue.

1. They Do Not Believe What Others Say

2. They Expect The Worst

3. They Keep A Distance From Others

4. They Avoid Commitments

5. They Have Shallow Relationships

How to Overcome Trust Issues And Learning To Trust Again

People with trust issues need to know how to deal with trust issues and learn to open up to people they are close with. Though it takes a lot of work and self-awareness, it is possible to make things better for yourself by trusting again.

1. Improving On Communication

2. Avoiding Putting Blame On Their Partner

3. Going For Therapy

4. They Should Work On Building Their Self-esteem

5. They Should Find Support Among People Who Love Them

6. They Should Find A Way To Healthily Manage Their Emotions

7. They Should Move On From Past Experiences

8. They Should Trust Themself (Self-trust)

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Nigerians React As 22-Year-Old Man Marries 48-Year-Old White Lover



Unbelievable! Again, a Nigerian man has married a 48-years old american lover in our dear Lagos Registry, in Ikoyi. As gathered, the man has decided to take his relationship with a 48-year-old white woman to the next level by tying the knot with her, as Nigerians on social media reacted to the news as most people believed he married her for money and Green Card.

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A 22-year-old Nigerian man has shown that age is just a number when it comes to love as he married his 48-year-old lover at the Ikoyi Registry in Lagos. Pictures of the newlyweds were posted on Instagram by @instablog9ja. Young men have been walking down the aisle with older lovers in recent times as they believe that age is just a number in relationships.

It should, however, be noted that while some of these men have genuine love for their older lovers, others simply tie the knot because of the financial gains attached to the marriage. Nigerians took to the comment section of the post to share their thoughts on the marriage between the 22-year-old man and his older lover. Most of those that commented were of the opinion that the young man is only interested in using the white lady for a Green Card or monetary gain.

Instagram user with the handle @mhiz_teetress wrote: “Okay yahoo to another level.” The young man married his older lover at the Ikoyi Registry in Lagos state. Photo credit: @instablog9ja/Instagram Source: Twitter Another user with the handle @diinmah said getting a green card is the most important thing for the young man, adding that loving his older lover would come after the green card. @badderman_ice congratulated the groom and advised him to make money, which he said is the most important thing. @ella_smart_chinyere wrote: “Money must be made.”

In other news, a video has emerged on social media in which a young man was left disappointed while proposing to his lover. In the video, the unidentified man could be seen kneeling down for his lover in the middle of the road, but the lady walked out on him. The man, who at a point started crying, begged the young lady to accept his ring but she refused it and walked out on him, leaving onlookers amazed. Must a woman adopt her husband’s name after marriage?

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