While quickies are great and all, sometimes you want something that lasts a little longer. But what’s longer? For starters, it’s important to get a healthy sense of expectation are the length of an average sex session. FWIW, research has shown that around 45 per cent of men ejaculate within two minutes, and a 2005 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that sex lasts about 5.4 minutes for hetero couples (not including foreplay).
When it comes to how long they want sex to last, a 2008 study found that hetero couples define an “adequate” sex session as lasting anywhere from 3 to 7 minutes for ejaculation, and “desirable” as anywhere from 7 to 13 minutes. If you and your partner would like to increase the amount of time spent boning, read on for some expert advice.
1. Have him tap into lower levels of arousal.
Xanet Pailet, author of Living an Orgasmic Life, explains that sometimes men who struggle to last long during sex are so highly aroused, they can’t prevent ejaculation from happening until it’s too late. “To be able to last longer during sex, a man needs to learn how to hang out at lower levels of arousal for long periods of time.”